When I was young I could only read about retired men. I didn't know any personally. Sometimes there would be photos in the newspaper. They would be older men - thin - wizened - and the photograph would show them standing or kneeling in front of the flowers in their front garden. They would explain that they devoted their time to their garden. Sometimes the photo would show both husband and wife. Both would be beaming happily. They did look happy and contented. They were not beset with worries about money. Retirement was an exciting and pleasurable thing. It was something to look forward to. I could only dream about it though.
I did have some relatives in Melbourne - men - who were retired. One was an official high up in the Police Force who claimed that he went back to work the day after he retired. He didn't last long in retirement because he died within a few months. I did have one other relative - a man - who survived Gallipoli and was supposed to have health problems. He also seemed to die quickly. I lived in an area where men didn't retire. They normally died in office. They were farmers mostly. No males in my family lived past 60. The normal thing was to die in your 50’s. In my life I never overburdened myself with hard work and stayed fairly healthy. But I had the concept conditioned in me. I imagined that when I turned 70 I would retire and die soon after. This hasn’t happened. When I did retire I had not planned it. I did not expect to retire. What happened was that my wife retired. She was offered a retirement window and she had to take up the offer straight away. Even she didn't want to retire at that particular time. Because she retired she thought it would be a good idea to move immediately to Benalla. I had to make several decisions. One of which was that I had to completely retire. We moved to Benalla. I made several attempts to gain employment in Benalla. I don’t know if I was serious. But I did make enquiries. I didn't want to work in an Accountants office. I only wanted to work in Benalla. I did not manage to gain employment. I planned to keep myself busy and purchased Pepys Diary with the intention of carefully reading it in full. It turned out I only read it when having breakfast. It did provoke an interest in Pepys however. He wrote it in code. He knew that if the authorities were informed as to what he wrote he would be in deep trouble. He did live through some interesting times. The fire. The death of Charles 1st. He once saw Shakespeare's Hamlet and was impressed with the to be or not to be soliloquy. He did an enormous amount of refurbishing inside his house. He did not keep a diary all his life. He discontinued it several times and twice took it up again after a vacant space. Even his editors censored his writing. He lusted after most women and was not afraid to make sexual advances. He always thought of sex when he saw women. He would start each month with the news that his wife was menstruating and the editors deleted this from the published diary. After 2 months my previous work phoned and asked if I could come back to work. I didn't even think about it. I said "Yes" before they could explain why. This led to another career. I was able to commute to Melbourne every week and boarded with friends for 3 nights a week. Later on our house became vacant and I was able to move back in and work full time. Some things had changed. There was a niche for me. I took on a higher management role in production. I continued with sales also. After some time The company was taken over by a larger firm and I was asked to stay on. As as salesman. I enjoyed the feeling of having this extra time added on to my working life. It meant I could retire when I wanted to. The downside was I had to drive to Melbourne each week. And drive home. I had to watch for Kangaroos on the road. It was a worrisome thing. I saw a delivery Van in Bonnie Doon deliberately drive over a young Kangaroo. This type of image stays with us. I cannot fathom the mentality of some people. The two people in the van had smiles on their faces as they drove deliberately at the animal. Eventually it did not suit me to work in a large corporation whose head office was in Brisbane. I was offered a job in Brisbane and it was hinted that I might go to Malaysia. The company was expanding into Asia. They had a large printing plant in Vietnam. Employees came and went to gain experience. But they also had simple rules. You had to attend sales meetings every Monday morning. If people didn't conform they were quickly disposed of. An out of date computer system had to be coped with. The firm who took us over had people with preconceived ideas as to who was important. I retired a second time. This time I enjoyed it. I discovered an organisation called U3A and immersed myself in it. Neville Gibb September 2023
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I want several things to happen at my funeral.
I want 4 pieces of music played. 1. Soave sia il vento from Cosi Fan Tutte This should then be followed by some dialogue preferably by my family. My sons and my wife. 2. Accross the Universe by The Beatles This to be followed by some history of the life of Neville Gibb. I would hope that it would be stated that I considered that the apex of government to have happened with the election of the Labor Government in 1972 and that I considered Gough Whitlam to be the only real Prime Minister Australia has had. Gough Whitlam was my true political hero. And still is. And that I considered that Australian people to be unworthy of respect for the way they voted in 1966 and 1975. It should be stated that I was always against the Vietnam War and that this led me to feel alienated from most Australians. Plus the feeling of being excluded from my extended family. 3. Ave Vera Corpus by Mozart People should be made to sit in silence and listen to each piece of music through to the end. I am not sure if I want to much dialogue spoken. Especially by people I did not like. I want no hypocritical praise spoken over my body at all. I have always had a horror of hearing people praised to the heavens when they are dead by people who always spoke contemptuously of them when they were alive. I can quite easily believe that this could happen to me. I have always felt that most people I have known have disliked me. Most of my relatives have given me the impression they have disliked me. Some have been very pointed. Most of my work colleagues have been critical. At the same time I have not known many people I have truly liked. I have always been a moralist. I disapprove of other peoples morals. I would like it be said that I was always suspicious of intolerance. I would like it stated that I had a horror of prejudice. I would like it stated that I always had a horror of racism. I would like it stated that I looked on the majority of human beings with contempt. I would like it mentioned that I never felt Australian until I left it. In my youth I was always being accused of being un-australian - and because this was said with such passion converging on hatred I believed I was un-australian. I felt an alien within australia. I would like it mentioned that I had two years in England where I was happy and this sustained me for the rest of my life. I would like my wife and children to all speak and say something. Other relatives and friends may want to speak and are to be allowed - no matter how unimportant or unsuitable the people may be thought to be. I want it stated that I loved my wife and children to distraction. This may not have always been obvious to every one involved. But no one could have loved their children and their wife more than I did. I want it stated that I always had a temper simmering below the surface. Always there. Always close to going off. And I used it unfairly on people who did not always deserve it. I want it stated that I was not a particularly happy person. But I knew when I had done the wrong thing and always tried to recant when it was required. I definitely do not want a "professional" funeral planner speaking at my funeral. I want no funeral director organising my funeral. I would prefer that no funeral director even to be in attendance. 4. I want the modern utube version of Please Pleased Me shown on a video screen to wrap things up. This can be found on Utube and has Paul McCartney singing lead. Once again people must be made to sit in silence until the video is finished. |
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